It makes me sad to think about my poor little guy, who is still so small to me being picked on at school. He came home and told me a week ago that kids were being mean to him at recess. I didn't say or do much about it because he acted like he could care less. Well every morning this week he has cried when it came time for us to give him a hug and say goodbye. At first we thought it was just the reality of being back at school. Not being home all day to play like his little sister does. Or that he is at school all day now, no more only going for 3 hours and then coming home, he is there for 7 long hours.
Well I decided when I picked him up to say something to one of his teachers. She told me that she noticed a couple days in he got all timid and upset when it was announced it was recess time, and this has gone on since (besides today). My heart dropped, I knew that when he said kids were being mean to him it was real. That there are kids who are being mean to my baby boy, my sweet guy is being hurt and I am feeling lost on how to help him.
I know I need to tell him to be strong, but I can't tell him to fight back like my husband thinks. I don't really want my 5 year old getting kicked out of school! Ignoring doesn't work. I feel like I need a book on how to deal with this, so that I can refer back to it for tips. There must be a book for this, there is a book for anything, right? Okay I don't really need another book. I just need to help him, and if I am having trouble with this what am I going to do 5 or 10 years from now when he is 10 and 15!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Where did the summer go?
I sit here at my computer, it is a Sunday evening at 9pm and it is dark outside. Really dark, like you know summer is coming to an end. We really have not had much of a summer this year, the weather has been really crappy and when it was nice it would be hot during the day and cold in the evening. Never once was there a night when you wanted to sit out and chat with friends. Anytime we tried we were dressed like it was winter and drinking tea instead of martini's! I can remember one night a month ago when I decided to go an unpack my Uggs from their box and put them on. Yes I had always said that I would not wear them in the summer, that I thought that was foolish. But when it is down right cold out my feet wanted warmth. And since I was practically wearing a winter jacket I felt that it only made sense to wear my warm boots too.
I reflect on this summer and wonder where it went. I am sure any of my readers who are still around have wondered where I went! Yes I know I am slacking... but in my defense I have been so overly busy that I don't think I had any real downtime this summer to just kick back and relax. Probably my own fault as I have become a self proclaimed workaholic. I realized this when my husband and I were driving back from my mom's place after picking up the kids. She lives 3 hours north in a beautiful place called cottage country. She was a great "Hamma" as my kids call her and took the kids for 5 days to enjoy the lake. After about an hour in the car I looked at my husband and told him that I could not stop thinking about how I could be working while we were driving and that was a good 4 hours of work time that I will never get back. Yes folks I think I need a 2 step program for this.
My husband and I went away for a few days to Chicago to enjoy the beautiful city and see Pearl Jam in concert. I brought my laptop with me so I could work in my spare time, you know the hour on the plane, the waiting at the airport, and the hour or so early in the morning when my husband is still sleeping because guess what - I can no longer sleep in. Even if I stay awake until 3am which we did for 3 nights straight I can't sleep in. Oh how I wish I could, sleep and me are best friends and I really need it, a good solid 8 hours of it. I am not cut out for the party life anymore. I am old... and okay with it...
So back to my summer. I hired a mothers helper to come and take care of my kids while I worked. I wanted them to be able to have fun and I wanted to be able to work. Well it was a good thing I did because this summer has been soooo busy. Not the normal couple orders here and there so I can enjoy the warm weather. I have had to work each and every day, and evening and play catch up most weekends. I realized I work a lot when I overheard my son tell Kalina, our helper that all his mommy does is work. I tried to force myself to step back more and spend quality time with them instead of looking at my Blackberry or bringing my laptop outside with me. There were some weekends where I didn't even turn on my computer! That is the way it is supposed to be, and that is the way it will be now. My kids are growing up so fast, my son turned 5 a week ago. The baby that helped me start Grace Announcements. And my youngest, the baby is not a baby anymore, she is 2.5. I don't want to miss them grow up because I was too busy working.
I did have some fun though. I can remember many days or nights with friends, enjoying the poor excuse for a summer we had. We didn't care, we all sat and ate and drank and had fun. I think my kids had fun too, because most days they didn't want to leave the house and their friends to go anywhere. We still don't have fences so it is like one big huge playground in our backyard. We have play structure, another has a trampoline, a few with small pools or sprinklers for those few hot days, and lots of kids to play with - who would want to leave that? I can even laugh now about the time I got on the trampoline and bounced a few kids, I thought I was having a heart attack, but after eating a few Tums my girlfriend gave me I learned it was just indigestion! Then there were the cart wheels, oh how I hurt my groin doing that. It is okay because my other girlfriend did too, in the exact same spot!! We were just talking about those tonight, and how we are going to try to perfect them.
So in all the work and crazy partying you can see why I have not been on here posting. I promise now that the summer is over, my son goes to school full time in 2 days, and it is back to schedules and more work I will try my best to post regularly again. Heck I could post every day for the next couple of months just to catch up on all my summer stories and adventures. Maybe I will, or maybe I will just do as I always do. Blog about all the craziness that is my life! Enjoy the last day or your summer break :)
I reflect on this summer and wonder where it went. I am sure any of my readers who are still around have wondered where I went! Yes I know I am slacking... but in my defense I have been so overly busy that I don't think I had any real downtime this summer to just kick back and relax. Probably my own fault as I have become a self proclaimed workaholic. I realized this when my husband and I were driving back from my mom's place after picking up the kids. She lives 3 hours north in a beautiful place called cottage country. She was a great "Hamma" as my kids call her and took the kids for 5 days to enjoy the lake. After about an hour in the car I looked at my husband and told him that I could not stop thinking about how I could be working while we were driving and that was a good 4 hours of work time that I will never get back. Yes folks I think I need a 2 step program for this.
My husband and I went away for a few days to Chicago to enjoy the beautiful city and see Pearl Jam in concert. I brought my laptop with me so I could work in my spare time, you know the hour on the plane, the waiting at the airport, and the hour or so early in the morning when my husband is still sleeping because guess what - I can no longer sleep in. Even if I stay awake until 3am which we did for 3 nights straight I can't sleep in. Oh how I wish I could, sleep and me are best friends and I really need it, a good solid 8 hours of it. I am not cut out for the party life anymore. I am old... and okay with it...
So back to my summer. I hired a mothers helper to come and take care of my kids while I worked. I wanted them to be able to have fun and I wanted to be able to work. Well it was a good thing I did because this summer has been soooo busy. Not the normal couple orders here and there so I can enjoy the warm weather. I have had to work each and every day, and evening and play catch up most weekends. I realized I work a lot when I overheard my son tell Kalina, our helper that all his mommy does is work. I tried to force myself to step back more and spend quality time with them instead of looking at my Blackberry or bringing my laptop outside with me. There were some weekends where I didn't even turn on my computer! That is the way it is supposed to be, and that is the way it will be now. My kids are growing up so fast, my son turned 5 a week ago. The baby that helped me start Grace Announcements. And my youngest, the baby is not a baby anymore, she is 2.5. I don't want to miss them grow up because I was too busy working.
I did have some fun though. I can remember many days or nights with friends, enjoying the poor excuse for a summer we had. We didn't care, we all sat and ate and drank and had fun. I think my kids had fun too, because most days they didn't want to leave the house and their friends to go anywhere. We still don't have fences so it is like one big huge playground in our backyard. We have play structure, another has a trampoline, a few with small pools or sprinklers for those few hot days, and lots of kids to play with - who would want to leave that? I can even laugh now about the time I got on the trampoline and bounced a few kids, I thought I was having a heart attack, but after eating a few Tums my girlfriend gave me I learned it was just indigestion! Then there were the cart wheels, oh how I hurt my groin doing that. It is okay because my other girlfriend did too, in the exact same spot!! We were just talking about those tonight, and how we are going to try to perfect them.
So in all the work and crazy partying you can see why I have not been on here posting. I promise now that the summer is over, my son goes to school full time in 2 days, and it is back to schedules and more work I will try my best to post regularly again. Heck I could post every day for the next couple of months just to catch up on all my summer stories and adventures. Maybe I will, or maybe I will just do as I always do. Blog about all the craziness that is my life! Enjoy the last day or your summer break :)
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